In this article, Nate writes, “Do I remain celibate? If I do, how do I gain a sense of community? Even the idea of having a guy roommate results in Christians telling me to “warn” my roommate about “who I am.” I am then questioned about whether I will be “tempted.” Should I be forced to live alone like a leper?
This has happened to me before. I’ve said it before, but I’m convinced many of my good guy friends censor their behavior (or put a shirt on) to not “cause a brother to sin.”
Fall 2010, one of my fraternity brothers told a pledge that I was gay. I found out a few weeks later when I came out to him. ”John told me.”
Really? Why? Like, how did it come up?
“He saw that I was being affectionate with you. But I like to hug everyone and love on everyone, mainly because I’m a goofy dude, but whatever. So he just pulled me aside and said, ‘You know he’s gay, right? I just didn’t want you to lead him on or something.’”
Right. Because clearly if a guy hugs me, he’s probably into penis, too.