15 10 / 2014

Can someone make a manip/mashup of Alan Rickman as Snape and the moment in Modern Family where Cam was offended that someone thought Meryl Streep wasn’t the right choice for Mama Mia…

If I had to make it, I think it would go something like this:

  • Gif 1:  ”I saw Prisoner of Azkaban, and it was okay, but I don’t think Alan Rickman was the right choice.”
  • Gif 2:  Cam’s dead “omg you did not just” stare
  • Gif 3:  Rickman in PoA walking into Lupin’s class and closing the blinds and asking the class to turn to page 394.
  • Gif 4:  Rickman using Avada Kedavra and then fleeing Hogwarts.
  • Gif 5:  Rickman finding and crying over Lily.
  • Gif 6:  Cam going “Excuse me, Alan Rickman could play batman and be the right choice.”


Other scene options:

  1. "Mr. Potter.  Our new celebrity"
  2. Snape putting himself between werewolf lupin and the trio.
  3. In GoF, Snape pulling down his sleeves before shoving Harry & Ron’s heads back into their books.
  4. Really, anything, amirite?

15 10 / 2014

15 10 / 2014

Driscoll wrote a rather graceful and eloquent resignation letter.  Take out some of the overly fluffy spiritual language, and this is perhaps something I should reference if I ever have to write a resignation letter.

Annnnyway.  Figured you should know.  I’m curious what he’ll do next.  Also, I hope Mars Hill continues to succeed as a ministry during this transitional time.  The change from the old teaching pastor to the new one typically does not go very well for megachurches, especially the largest ones, who “relied” to heavily on a single, charismatic leader.

15 10 / 2014

I hope I can retire to England at 55 and spend the next 30 years teaching at a prestigious boarding school or three.

05 10 / 2014

Homosexuality as Dividing Line" is Al Mohler’s latest article about homosexuality.

My take:

"…on a clear question of biblical truth, division is sometimes the only act that faithfulness to Scripture will allow." I unfortunately agree with this notion. That sometimes, differences are too stark for a group to remain one. It just sucks that in Christ, we form one body… and we still rush to cut off part of our body when someone thinks too differently from us.

That being said, I think it’s silly Mohler calls homosexuality a “clear question of biblical truth.” If it were really that clear, then why did the largest ex-gay ministry in the world close its doors permanently last year? If it were really that clear, would so many denominations have changed their positions on homosexuality, gay leaders/staff, or same sex marriage itself? Almost half of young evangelicals support same sex marriage (Public Religion Research Institute). Mohler’s staunch language is harmful. He’s allowed to have an opinion, and I fully respect his opinion. But he’s lying to himself if, given the totality of evidence before him, he can call it a “clear question of biblical truth.” The Bible is not Mohler’s only witness to God’s desire for us. He cannot discount the changing tides just because he prefers his exegesis over theirs.

27 9 / 2014

If anyone was curious, now my 2nd of two younger sisters is engaged.  (Well, technically, the first is already married. but still… i’m the oldest, and both of them are happily taken and marriage is happening.)

18 9 / 2014

"Homophobia and the closet are allies. Like an unhealthy co-dependent relationship they need each other to survive. One plays the victim living in fear and shame while the other plays the persecutor policing what is ‘normal’. The only way to dismantle homophobia is for every gay man and lesbian in the world to come out and live authentic lives. Once they realize how normal we are and see themselves in us….the controversy is over."

Anthony Venn-BrownA Life of Unlearning (via gay-son-of-a-pastor)

See… Milk said the same thing.  The only way is authenticity.  Just do it when you’re ready.  Do it when you can do it safely.

04 9 / 2014

I read an article on Desiring God called Orienting on Homosexual Orientation.  Spoiler alert.  It sucked.  Pretty much the first 10 paragraphs were the most convoluted way to say “There’s a difference between sexual attraction and attraction that is emotional, spiritual, intellectual, etc”.  The whole reason the author, Nick Roen, goes to such pain to distinguish between the two really bothers me because it’s so shaky in pretty much every way it could be.  SO I want to talk about it.

As you’d expect from this blog, the author’s suggestion is to “kill” any sexual attraction and sexual desire.

"But what of the exclusively intense non-sexual attractions that are often experienced within a homosexual orientation?"  Yes, what about them?  You know these attractions, y’all.  Guys, it’s that fraternity brother who you love because he gives the most loving hugs and encouraging words of affirmation.  Girls, it’s the girl in your Bible study who inspires you to work on parts of your character and personality.

So what of these, Nick?  ”[They’re] not inherently disordered… However, it becomes tricky because the sexual and non-sexual attractions are often experienced simultaneously…”  GASP!

Nick says we have two options, guys.  The first is to NOT HAVE ATTRACTIONS.  BAD ATTRACTIONS, BAD!  ”Never pursue any sort of friendship with anyone toward whom an attraction is experienced.”  He admits that this is “not preferable.”  ARE YOU FREAKING KIDDING ME.

His second option—-are you ready, guys?  I don’t think you’re ready—-his second option is to just “deal with them accordingly.”  I’m not exactly sure what he’s getting at, to be honest, so thankfully, Nick used the last 100 words of his 1,268 word post to explain.  And this is what he says, “…there is the potential to proceed in a wholesome way.”


Don’t get too carried away just yet… he just said potential.

<Sorry I’ve just been dripping with sarcasm in this post.>

On to the seriousness.  The big problem I have with this entire approach is that Nick readily admits the terribly bleak view this requires of PEOPLE and of relationships.  It paints sex and attraction as some unholy, uncontrollable, fleshly fetter.

Straight people desire sex.  That’s a good thing.  Out of control, it’s called lust.  Straight people can be attracted to people.  That’s also a good thing. Out of control, it’s called… wait.  What is it called?  Well, it’s probably bad, too.

But when gay people desire sex, it’s sin.  When gay people are attracted to people, we’re gonna complicate the definitions and splice attraction into segments to figure out when it’s bad and when it’s not.  You need a magnifying glass to know what’s what… and when that doesn’t work, just get the crystal ball out and start guessing.  Remember:  better safe than sorry.

The reason this rhetoric is so harmful is that it’s not in the Bible anywhere. It’s people trying to out-smart sexuality and figure out how to make it sinful.

03 9 / 2014

So, it’s worship wednesday.  And I had a thought earlier this week.  I can’t seem to enjoy or like any new worship music.  As in… everything I’ve listened to that’s been put out in the past year-ish… I don’t really think is any good.  At first, I thought it was a phase Christian music was going through.  Because no, I don’t need my worship music to be electronica.  I don’t club enough to find Jesus accessible in that genre.

And this week, I thought, “What if it’s me.  What if the sad, pathetic state of my relationship with God and with the church is a reflection of my feelings about (and more specifically, my need or desire to enjoy) new worship music??

See, all of the old worship music I can listen to and connect with spiritually.  It still transports me to a place where I can kneel in worship, in my heart and physically.  But maybe that’s not just because it’s “better” than all this new stuff.  Maybe it’s because I’ve experienced all this music during times when I was spiritually thirsty, because I’ve had really powerful moments spending time with the Lord while this music was playing.  Maybe that type of associative effect has more play on my enjoyment of worship music than I want to give it.

I honestly don’t know.  What do you guys think?

02 9 / 2014


I came out to my parents on Friday. I never thought I would ever do that. Basically I haven’t really been talking to them much. They yell and try to argue where I am peaceful and try not to argue. They also say lots of things that can be hurtful. Generally I have a thick skin. But from parents,…


I’m really proud of this guy.  I’m seriously impressed by the comfort he finds in his convictions.  Like… think on it for a second.  He’s heard these incredibly hurtful things.  And they hurt.  He feels the sting.  And that’s a good thing.  But he also knows his convictions.  He knows what is true.  And he is allowing those truths to be more powerful and more real to him than the hateful words of his parents.  I’m pretty sure that right there is Jesus’ hope and truth delivering you from pain and suffering.

Also, I’ll say it again.  I’m here to chat, mostdontknowit, if you ever need.

02 9 / 2014

I dated a guy for about the month of November.  Every so often, I think about him and still wish we were together.  :/

29 8 / 2014

If there’s one thing that I hate, it’s when a Christian person writes publicly about living a gay lifestyle and then leaving it to pursue a heterosexual relationship.

Because typically, this is what it sounds like:  ”I was living up everything that meant to be gay. I slept around, I was a gossip, I got drunk all the time, and I didn’t care about God.  Then, my life came tumbling town, and everything was a mess.  And I met this wonderful opposite sex person, and now we’re dating, and I’m going to church, and I’m praying and reading the Bible, and we’re doing the relationship God’s way instead of my way.”

And the pastor who inevitably shares this on social media is just saying “wow this is so brave.”

No.  This is crap.  Because your Prodigal Friend* doesn’t have the maturity nor the intellect to differentiate which stuff in his life is sin and which stuff in his life is not sin.  And his friends, the community he’s surrounded himself with… they only have second-hand knowledge of sexuality that has only been affirmed because of the bubble they’ve put themselves in… and so this Prodigal* is re-learning his experiences through the warped lens of Christian Fallacies.

And then the Christians who share this crap. “Oh, God is alive and well in our church. He is moving. There are miracles. Read John’s story of deliverance from homosexuality.”

No.  Your dude is bi (sometimes) and was making some pretty dumb life decisions because he didn’t know how to maturely address his attraction to the same sex.


*  I use prodigal not to mean wasteful, but more as an allusion to the prodigal son story… so specifically meaning prodigal to reference that “returning to grace”

27 8 / 2014

I just realized that I make such a big deal about “gay christian”… and I scroll through the tag on tumblr all the time.  But I really probably need to be following the “trans christian” tag because trans* is something I know very, very little about.  And that’s just not okay.

I watched the SITC LBGT panel, and I got to hear from Alex. It was amazing, really. And then someone commented, “I want to know Alex’s birth name.” and the replies to that comment… they just got to me. I had no idea that asking someone their birth name was offensive.

25 8 / 2014



She reblogged me. Like 827 posts or something. ;)  Thanks! I feel loved.

22 8 / 2014

Anonymous said: I would guess that you're right, the pool you're talking about has a pretty extremely defined social construct surrounding physical contact between persons, however "Americans" in general are getting less & less physical so there's a societal element there as well, but I'd still place most of the issue with individuals feeling personally uncomfortable because of their own fears and insecurity. Be yourself, be awesome! God is the love emanating from you, and that love will change minds and lives.

I agree.

This love is provided by God. Loving people—of your own accord—is draining. When love is coming from your own self, it requires reciprocation or eventually you’ll run out of love to give.

Love—coming from yourself—only makes sense to offer to others when they deserve your love.

I think that, as long as I am seeking to be more Godly, the love I will give will feel more like God’s love.